The Big Silent C

Unless you’ve been hiding under a stone you will know the world lost several high profile names over the past month and the world has poured their hearts out with sorrow over the deaths of David Bowie and Alan Rickman. Last night Canada had the news Celine Dions’ husband also passed away and the one thing linking all these people was The Big C.

Once upon a time cancer would have been more of The Big Silent C because no-one really talked about it and if they did, it was in hushed gossip circles. Over the past few days the disease has claimed three people the world is aware of but what about all the rest of the victims who don’t get twitter trends or facebook tributes? Cancer took my grandmother three years ago; no mass fanfare on social media. My daughter’s teacher has just informed us she is leaving to go battle breast cancer – the world won’t trend her fight. Where are the hashtag trends for all the mothers, fathers, sons and daughters who die everyday in a hospital bed or hospice, surrounded by devastated family while the world continues on unaware?

For me the recent celebrity deaths have highlighted something big and that is the fact that cancer is everywhere and it’s not just something that happens to someone else, it’s something that can strike for anyone at anytime. Imagine if the world took as much action for all the silent voices of cancer victims as they did when they heard David Bowie had died in only 18 months. I know of at least 7 people within a close family and friends circle who have either battled cancer or died from cancer; a weird 7 degrees of cancer link. I myself have a small chance of developing throat cancer because I have Graves Disease (Hyperthyroidism) but I’m lucky enough to be within the very, very small percentage.

We live in an unbelievable age of technology and medical advancements. Over the years scientists and doctors have worked endlessly to try and find cures to many illnesses and diseases; there is even a ‘cure’ for AIDS now so how about that cure for cancer? We can help continue the endless work done to find a way to beat the over 100 various forms of cancer; if every person who tweeted about David Bowie or Alan Rickman donated a small sum of money towards cancer research then maybe we could collectively, as a whole, help all the silent victims who still suffer and die without the social media fanfare and recognition to make cancer a thing of the past.  I know there are other illnesses out there that have even less attention but wars are won through a series of battles and cancer is just one of many battles attacking human health so take some time out of your busy day to look up a reputable cancer charity and think about giving something to help in the fight against The Big C.

My Rule of Three

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The plans ahead for 2016!
The plans ahead for 2016!

My first post of the new year! The beginning of a new year always fills me with mixed emotions; excitement, wonder, apprehension and determination. I am not one of those people who make resolutions simply because I know myself too well to know I am not going to keep them! Instead I have adopted a system which makes the whole year count as the time to make changes.

January is a crappy month (sorry Mum!) and there seems to be this ridiculous need for the world populous to suddenly decide they need to be better than before but we all know it never lasts. My husband dreads the new year for the simple fact he can’t enjoy being in the gym! The awful ‘New Year, New ME!’ crowd floods in thinking they are going to mould their bodies into buff, muscular temples to which ladies will swoon and men will drool over. Yeah…no!  Give it until February and the gym is once again quiet and hubby can go on with his powerlifting regime like a true champ (he’s closing in on a 600lb deadlift goal!)

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A sample of my ‘Rule of Three’ page. As you can see October wasn’t very successful but that’s fine!

Last year I started my ‘Rule of Three’ system in which I take a moment at the start of the month to think about what I would like to accomplish and I list three things I think I could actually get done during the month. I don’t hold myself strictly to these goals because I can’t stand making myself feel guilty over such small intentions however if I do get them completed I feel very happy and congratulate myself on my small accomplishment. I make a point of not paying attention to the pressure of making the new year ‘The Year of Change’! I wait until February to really get into whatever plans I have made and I use January to have a really good think about things I would like to do, see or achieve before writing it all down in one long list. After making the list I then have ideas to use towards my Rule of Three goals for each month. Some of my goals have been carried over from 2015 because I need it to be warmer outside – you can’t paint a desk in a garage registering -10 degrees!

If you are looking for a new way to get through some goals, why not give my idea a go? Don’t commit to a mountain of over-thought plans and dreams but instead try for smaller more achievable goals that can be done throughout the year. Make it more than just about you – include your surroundings, your home, your kids and family. Don’t get me wrong; it’s good to have big dreams but ensure you make the path towards them realistic!

Here’s wishing you success in your quests throughout 2016!